I’m sooo depressed. I didn’t get ____________.__________ happened. Now I’m feeling depressed.
Time heals all wounds.They’re in a better place.It’s all for the greater good.Be patient, something better will come along.When a door closes, a window opens.
I don’t know why you’re depressed.You have ____________going for you/in your life.Others are dealing with so much worse.Stop being so negative all the time and think good thoughts.
Sadness and depression are NOT the same thing.
Sadness is an emotional response to a circumstance or event: a betrayal or a loss.
Sadness must be allowed to be expressed. If we didn’t need this emotion, then it wouldn’t be part of who we are.
Sadness is an expression of grief, whether it’s the death of a loved one, the betrayal of trust, the loss of a hope or dream.
Grief is the process our minds and emotions go through in order to put sadness in perspective and accept the loss, in order to move forward.
Grief must be allowed to run it’s course for the person doing the grieving. It looks, feels, and acts different for everyone.
Depression is something different. Sadness and grief can either be part of or trigger depression. Conversely, depression isn’t a guaranteed response to or progression of sadness and grief.
Sadness and grief are emotional. Depression is a dysfunction of the organic brain and the neurochemistry. Depression needs the correct diagnosis and proper, often long-term, treatment.
Feelings, thoughts, and beliefs affect and are affected by it, but you can’t think yourself well. If we could, then doctors would be unnecessary.
In any of these things: sadness, grief, or depression, people on the outside tend to get really uncomfortable, really fast.
That discomfort often leads to invalidation of the person’s experience and emotions. It leads to stern judgment and impatient assumptions and criticism.
Bottom line…there is nothing wrong with sadness and grief. Expressing and experiencing them is not a weakness. It’s healthy human functioning.
Just because you’re uncomfortable, you don’t have the right or the responsibility to disrupt or derail their emotions or circumvent their processes.
If it is depression, pay attention. It can exist with no apparent reason. Telling someone they have no cause for the depression and reminding them that others have it worse doesn’t help them, at all. It just means you’re not an emotionally or psychologically safe person to be around.